Empty space, right? A strict utilitarian might look at empty space like a margin in a book, newspaper, or a website as wasted opportunity.
Fill it with more color, more ads, more text, more-more-more.
Once it’s full though, the margin has lost its original intended use: a passive method of delineation.
A book’s margins don’t necessarily represent a failure to utilize one-hundred percent of a piece of paper or a screen. Sometimes, when it’s done with intention, it can be used to create the space necessary to help draw the eyes to the what matters: the content or the message. It delineates the content from the medium.
An investor or CEO might see the margins on a balance sheet or financial report and think that they’re not big enough. A better question might be “what does the lack of margins represent?” Does it represent consistent, sustained investment in growth? Or does it mean there’s some mis-alignment of priorities? Margins in this case might delineate a successful strategy from one that isn’t.
Margins are everwhere. Margins for error, margins for budgets, even the proverbial “margins” of our lives and the events that fill them.
In the micro-view, in purely focusing on our personal or professional lives specifically, what do the margins represent? Do they represent intentional separation of concerns and delineation? Or does it represent space? An opportunity for something?
What we decide to do with those margins is part of the work. And it’s an opportunity many of us get but few of us utilize to its fullest potential. Choose wisely.
Sometimes a little separation is necessary.
Consider a welding machine like a MIG or TIG welder. Too much separation and there isn’t enough electrical arc and heat generated on the metal to bond it. Too little and you end-up fusing the welding gun or your bonding material to the metal directly. Not ideal in either case.
A little proverbial distance can give you a lot more than just perspective, it can sometimes be the key to unlocking new insights or seeing something much more clearly. Taking the necessary time away from work, family, friends, obligations, and commitments might be the best way to gain a better understanding of your efforts and priorities.
But the inevitable return is what separates a beneficial (albeit temporary) separation from a detrimental one. Eventually you have to go back and take the insights and wisdom gained back to the effort.
Letting “eventually” be the interval is just stalling. Don’t wait, because the world won’t.
If our inner monologues are saying things that we wouldn’t say to anyone else out loud, what purpose does that serve?
If our inner monologues are reinforcing values and beliefs that aren’t true anymore, why do we still believe them?
If our inner monologues are telling us things that are distorting our view of the world, why do we continue to let them speak?
If circumstances and experiences have changed, then it’s time to change our inner narrative.
Sometimes means leaving behind something that we love or care about too much.
Leaving Facebook because it’s too toxic and doesn’t add value to our lives.
Declining additional commitments or dropping them because we’re over-subscribed.
Avoiding taking on additional work when we’re already working at our limit.
And sometimes it means simply saying “no thank you”.
Something that was brought to my attention yesterday by a fantastic episode of the podcast “Why Is This Happening?” with Chris Hayes is the simple fact that a multiethnic, multiracial, pluralistic, representative, egalitarian democracy has never existed on this planet at any point in human history.
While we continue to stumble and miss the mark, for the last hundred years the United States of America has been the single most egalitarian nation-state in all of recorded history.
We have made tremendous missteps and mistakes as a society – nothing should ever indicate otherwise. On racial justice, gender equality, and equality of sexuality and expression, we have largely missed the mark and continue to do so in a myriad of ways.
Our job as citizens is to ensure that the project continues and that we enfranchise as many of our fellow humans as we can along the way. The project itself never ends, as is the case with any truly worthy enterprise.
The question that lies before us is this: Do we have the strength of will and the courage to continue the work?
It’s easy to fall into the fallacy that effective communication is more about being clear than it is about honesty.
Presenting information in a clear and engaging way is certainly helpful.
Presenting your information with honesty and humility does more to engage your audience than anything else.
The hallmark of a great communicator is someone who can balance both, and it’s a great feeling to know that you’re trying.
Depression and trauma commit the most heinous of crimes.
They steal our ability to be happy, to love unconditionally, and to be fully present.
They make it hard to comprehend that our suffering isn’t grounded in a complete and holistic view of reality.
They prevent us from being able to understand that all of us are struggling in our own ways.
They keep us from knowing intrinsically that our experiences and feelings are valid.
We shouldn’t have to be reminded that our lives and our experiences are valid and valuable, but trauma and depression make it necessary.
What’s worse is that being subject to these conditions wasn’t up to us. We didn’t ask to be afflicted with a crippling series of disorders where each decision is questioned, where every effort feels useless, and where all hope randomly fades from view.
But what was always has to be separated from what is for people suffering from depression and trauma. Because without constantly having a different view proffered and reinforced from others, we become stuck. We are only able to see what we can see, and that often means being stuck in a loop not of our making.
Depression and trauma have no known cure. They’re conditions that have to be actively managed and the people suffering from them need support.
It’s a tough road survivors have to tread. No one should have to walk it alone.