No one will ever be able to advocate for you. Not me, not your boss, not your partner, not your squeeze, not your parents–literally no one. Because no one will know what you want or how much you want it.
No one except you.
When you really want or need something, you have engage your own sense of agency and ask for it. Even then, sometimes asking isn’t enough. “Better to ask forgiveness” only applies when you’ve slighted someone or failed to learn from a mistake or lapse of judgment.
Some people will try to tear you down, rip the excitement right out of your grasp. They aren’t your advocates or your friends in that moment. In some cases, they might mean well. They might be looking out for your physical or emotional wellbeing, but it’s up to you to decide whether to do it anyway and learn the lessons or to ask why.
But make no mistake: the second you let someone else make decisions for you or abdicate your responsibility to advocate for yourself, you’ve already given away your power. You have the ability to make yourself heard and to make your needs and desires known. You have agency, just like everyone else.
It’s up to you to use it.