Lead with it. It might seem inscrutible, impossible to comprehend the reasons why depending upon what subject is being queried. But the impossibility of starting with it begs the question itself: why not start with “why”?
Take, for example, an engineer. Brilliant, but utterly fearful and ineffective at communicating. Why?
Perhaps that very same brilliant engineer might have been smothered or abused early in their life. An educator or authority figure might have told them they’d never be able to communicate well. A parent who could never be placated or pleased tore them down at every turn. Maybe that’s why.
Maybe moves us closer. Why gives us an opening to insert insight, perspective, and empathy into the discourse.
When we’re confronted by difficult choices, disagreement, or discontent, we have the agency to ask the magic question. It’s up to us to dig deeper.
So, why not?