A tree doesn’t ask for permission to grow. It just does it.
The same can (and ideally should) be said of doing what needs to be done. Doing the most good and minimizing harm; that’s the hallmark of work that needs no permission.
Doing what we need to do for ourselves requires no permission, no leave need be begged-for. If we can’t reconize the deepest needs in our hearts, then maybe we’re not looking hard enough–or we’re in denial.
Stop asking for permission to do what you know to be right. Just start doing it. We’ll thank you for it later.