Just because I am male doesn’t mean that I don’t feel the sting of exclusion.  Just because I am male doesn’t mean that I am unable to express myself. I do not aim to perpetuate what Henry Rollins called “the violent promise of inequality”. I feel the agonizing burn of implied sexual violence and domination. […]

In my experience, there’s a tremendous disconnect between what HR departments are designed to do and what I feel like they should be doing.  The constant refrain I’ve heard from peers in the working world is “HR is there to protect the business”, not to be a resource for humans. What I’ve been finding more […]

Been a rough couple of weeks.  Been thinking a lot about how I interact with the world given that through no real fault of my own I belong to a category of individuals that have historically been subject to separation and ostracization. By which I mean I am, by popular belief and definition, “mentally-ill”.  I see […]

I’ve spent a lot of time living under the belief that I am insufficient, deficient, or otherwise defective. I believed that this was the case because no one was even pretending to be my champion. I lived in such painful invisibility that I acted out in a number of ways just to somehow try and […]

Because that would make us cruel. We don’t berate them for trying, we encourage and celebrate even the things that “aren’t quite there yet”. Yet in most modern meritocratic societies, we don’t celebrate failures. We only look at the highlight reels and put people on pedestals as examples. We don’t celebrate progressive failures nearly enough, […]

I think it’s been quite a while since I’ve had any objectivity on the subject of my family or my home life.  Filling out what my therapist calls a “geneogram” has certainly given me a lot to think about in that regard.  About the gaping hole that remains in my life because of the absence […]

One thing that has always irked me about interacting with other people is getting interrupted when someone asks me for information or tells me “that’s more than I wanted to know”.  I always feel as though that’s a cop-out and an automatic response to something that isn’t going to hurt them in the least.  It’s […]

Winning to impress someone else to gain acceptance leads to emptiness.  Determining your worth based on someone else’s approval, whether sought or unsought, is tantamount to psychic slavery, and it only serves to hinder one’s growth as a person. I have spent a large portion of my life in constant search for approval and some […]

I suppose it’s not something that gets talked about very often among pagan-minded individuals, but I think it’s something that’s worth exploring to some degree or another.  If I come off sounding supremely vague, it’s because this type of subject isn’t something that I have broached to the general public in the past… but sometimes […]